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24-Hour Crisis Line

For Friends & Family

If you know someone who is being abused, you can help him or her by showing you care. Let them speak confidentially about their situation and without judgement. You may be the only person with whom they feel comfortable.

Show you care in these ways:
  • Listen to the victim.
  • Believe the victim.
  • Do not minimize the struggle.
  • Do not judge the victim.
  • Do not blame the victim.
  • In helping, do not place yourself at risk.
  • Assure the victim that he or she is not responsible for the abuse.
  • Tell them it's not their fault. You can never make someone else hurt you.
  • Provide Alabama's toll-free crisis line number, 1.800.650.6522, for domestic violence victims.
  • Direct the victim to the Family Sunshine Center, or the domestic violence shelter nearest them - see www.acadv.org for other centers in Alabama.
  • Let the victim keep important papers and/or extra clothing at your house.
  • Help when you can with transportation, child care, groceries, etc.
  • Tell the victim they deserve to be safe. Physical violence in a relationship is never acceptable. Remind them that no one deserves to be beaten.
  • Help the victim learn not to deny or minimize the abuse. If they say, "It's really not that bad," tell them it is serious.
  • Assure your friend that violence in her home does concern you. There is no excuse for abuse. No one deserves to be abused. Domestic violence is a crime.
What to Say to Your Friend:
  • I am afraid for your safety/life.
  • I am afraid for your children's safety/life.
  • It will only get worse.
  • You deserve better.
  • I will be there for you if or when you ever need me.
What Can I Do?
  • Focus on the person's strengths. Provide the emotional support that confirms he/she is a good person.
  • Read about domestic violence; share stories with your friend to help him/her know they're not alone.
  • Encourage the victim to make a safety plan to identify ways to escape quickly.
  • Help with child care, transportation, grocery-buying, etc.
  • Consider volunteering for the domestic violence shelter.
  • Be patient. It takes time to bring about change. There are many barriers. Your friend has many decisions to make.

PO Box 5160, Montgomery, Alabama 36103-5160      334.206.2100